The Value Of Quality Learning: A Three-Pronged Effort

 

I have always perceived the U.S., an advanced economy, as the place where one can find the best of everything, especially in education system. This may be the reason why some people in most of developing economies, would strive their best to acquire a scholarship grant so as to achieve their dreams of getting higher education in an Ivy League schools or any schools for that matter in the U.S. (or in any developed countries), with the expectation that when they return home they would be able to pull back their ailing country from the brink of economic collapse either serving as technocrats in national/federal governments or land in a high-profile job as lead managers in the corporate world. Some are fortunate enough to hurdle the exams and enter into the more prestigious schools. If my recollection serves me right, a number of the professors and colleagues I've met were products of Ivy League schools and they do exemplify the kind of quality of education they've been to, reflective of their proficiency and efficiency in work performance. Graduates of the said schools may be better than others, but don't get me wrong, going to a top tier school does not guarantee a person's success, so it's non sequitur. There are plenty of non-ivy league schools which likewise offers outstanding education. As such, achieving quality education could be a three-pronged effort, it could be a responsibility and accountability of the school (Government), the educators and the students themselves.

Obtaining a technical assistance grant for studies abroad is an isolated case. You are better off if you've nailed it on the head, which only means you really deserved to get it. However,  not everyone is given the chance to grab the said golden opportunity when it knocks on the door. In fact, majority of the people in third world countries or even the poor but qualified and competent students are still grappling to get an education especially in higher levels. But the more pressing issue these days in the academe throughout the world is the kind of education people get from their respective Alma Mater. Certainly, the level of learning in a developed country vis-a-vis that in a developing and third world countries may be far different in view of several internal and external factors, not just in terms of qualifications of teachers but also the school creativity in so far as requirements, policies and technical support are concerned. But again, this is quite subjective as one would argue that regardless of where a person is located if the student is not keen on his studies and not willing and able to learn, then the problem arises. And this is where parents and teachers should complement their efforts to encourage the student to strive more and boost his confidence. Parents should also be involved in the education of their children especially in elementary and high school, the formative years of their learning process. I believe that everything, including study discipline and importance of education should start at home.

In one specific developing country for instance, it is very surprising to know that many college graduates could hardly express themselves even in their field of studies and interests. This is rather bothersome as those not mentally gifted with higher IQ's may be left behind compared to the smarter ones, particularly in career development and professional growth, thus contributing to the increase in a country's unemployment problem. For instance, in a report sourced from a specific country's Professional and Regulatory Commission, only 35% of about nearly 100,000 newly nursing graduate examinees passed the Nursing Board Examination for 2011, the lowest passing percentage ever for the past decade. The said result merely reflects the students, the school and the teachers poor performance during the course of the study. But of course, it can't be discounted that there could be a few of them also who actually made it good while in school but were not just lucky to pass the licensure exams.

The foregoing scenario is not only true in the said specific country but also everywhere,  it's becoming a global phenomenon. In fact, it is also happening even in developed countries like the U.S.. The U.S. public school's elementary and secondary teachers for instance are presently under scrutiny, so to speak, as the Government is set to provide excellent education to its young citizenry. While U.S. education is still pretty good compared to all countries, it has been observed that the Government has still failed to make the expected improvement in the quality of education and the students academic achievements despite the implementation of major education-related reforms. I understand there are such cases here in the U.S.  where learning skills have diminished even in some tertiary schools. There are certain schools, for example, wherein almost of their students passed even if a person deserves to be flunked. I believe these institutions are geared towards implementing a certain marketing strategy, a diploma-driven system, so as to attract more students for their schools primarily for cash flow reasons and not really for providing quality education. But as I said, there are students who really excel in class regardless of the kind of school and education system. These are the type of students who are diligent, studious and determined to achieve their dreams. But what about those who are not as gifted as the rest, and more so those who don't even bother to open up their books, literally, and don't even care to level up their effort of study habits.

 

Having said all of the foregoing observations, it is imperative that providing quality education does not primarily rest on the schools and teachers responsibility alone, but also on the students. Students particularly in elementary and middle schools need their parents guidance as far as study habits and discipline issues are concerned. Parents should have time to instill in their children the value of education and monitor on how they fare in school. It would be hard to produce the best and the brightest in schools if the three components are absent. While the schools and the teachers should have the uttermost responsibility in ensuring quality education, the students should equally have the duty to study and do their work. Surprisingly in a survey/study conducted by some educational researchers of the Office of Educational Research and Improvement (OERI), students are also of the view that their ability and willingness to learn are likewise important in the learning process. This is what I'm talking about, that quality education requires the participation of all the stakeholders involved, and there are no ifs, no buts! 

 

If you have other views on this, you are free to  voice out your opinion. Thank you!

A Mother’s Love For Her Prodigal Daughter – Tips and Thoughts

Perhaps, majority of us must have heard about the parable of the prodigal son. It was about a father's unwavering support for his wayward son, no matter how long it took for the latter to come to realization that he got lost and had to return home. The said father and son story was published many centuries ago and it was reported in a form of an allegory. It didn't actually happen but what is ironic about it is that after many centuries have passed, almost all of us have a so-called black sheep in the family, like that of the prodigal son. It could happen to either one of us, our brothers or sisters or perhaps the only son or daughter in the family.

With all the enjoyment and the pleasures in life these days, it may be observed that in all parts of the globe, there were and there are factual incidents regarding children giving headaches to their parents, so to speak, due to wrong values (e.g. disobedience and stubbornness), leading to the parents life of sorrows and sufferings. One example is this real story below which I would like to share with you.

Let's call the child “Nieves” for confidentiality. Nieves is the only child of a middle-class senior loving couple living in suburbs. Being the only child, the couple was able to give her all the comforts in life since childhood until she reached her teenage years. She was sent to high standing reputable schools, from grade school to college life. The couple never missed the opportunity to be good parents to her as far as discipline is concerned. However, in her teens, everything turned upside down. Nieves was already problematic, she showed tantrums whenever her parents couldn't deliver the material things she wants. She would squander all the money intended for her tuition fees and allowances to partying, clubbing and experimenting on illegal drugs with her female and male friends. To make the story short, the young lady obviously wasn't able to finish her schooling and to make matters worse she got pregnant which made her parents very frustrated. She was a pain in the neck especially to her father who has already given up on her as he became so ill and that he could no longer sustain the day to day living of the family. Subsequently, the father died due to lingering illness, leaving her mom to look after her.

Accustomed to city life and always in the company of happy-go-lucky friends, Nieves easily wins friends especially with men. It was during this time that she bore another child and finally another three with different fathers and all out of wedlock. The irresponsible fathers of her children left her with no alimony to speak of , leaving her with five kids to support by herself. All these times, the mother of Nieves acted as both her father and mother and that of her 5 youngsters. Even with kids in tow, Nieves maintained her escapades at a certain level, and her mother while continuously reminding of her responsibilities, would refrain from further discourse about the matter so as to avoid arguments and making Nieves upset.  Instead, she was always there on her side, and tried to understand the situation.  Their neighbors had even advised the mother to leave Nieves but she couldn't because it was more agonizing for her to leave her daughter and grand children in such a miserable state.

Apart from being the homekeeper, Nieves mother had to accept additional odd jobs (e.g. washing clothes, etc.) to continue their daily living, She actually became the breadwinner of the family, in her late 60's. Nieves was a little help but it was not just enough, she was not used to a life of misery.

One time, Nieves candidly told her Mom she's leaving them to seek for a job with a promise to be back as soon as she's able to save money for their needs. While for the neighbors the said move could have been the most appropriate and should have been done by Nieves long time ago, it was not the same case as her Mother's. That moment was the saddest part of Nieves' mother's life as it seemed to her that the probability for Nieves to be back that soon could be remote, knowing her. She was truly concerned of the plight of her daughter, even at that time.

Several months have passed, still no word from Nieves. Now, three years later, and still the mother has not heard any news from her. The mother, in her daughter's stead, had been lovingly and painstakingly taking care of her grandchildren sans the moral and financial support from her own treasured daughter. She endured the many hardships and the struggles in order to provide them with at least some food to eat. Frail and sickly, the mother with the help of the the kids (the youngest of them is 5 yrs. old) are now dependent on the kind assistance from her neighbors, by doing some errands and other menial tasks for other people. When asked by the social worker if she has at least a tiny grudge on her daughter, she said nothing. Rather, she told her that having Nieves is the biggest happiness in her entire life. Her love for her daughter never falters and it's still there, embedded in her heart. She's going to wait for her for the rest of her life, God willing, as she really believes that someday Nieves will come back to them someday, with a renewed heart.

Remarks:

Not all parents are blessed with wonderful doting children. But all parents, in their right minds, would always want the best for their children. Our parents, especially our mothers serve as light to us, they mold and sharpen us to be better persons.

Humans as we are, however, we encounter shortcomings and failings in life. It is for us to formulate our own strategies on how to have a better family life. We are responsible for what we are, for what we do. But, it's not too late yet to rectify the said shortcomings and to reconcile again with our loved ones.

For Nieves, if you happen to read this blog, I hope and pray, you will have the heart and the conscience to be more sensitive to other people's needs, especially that of your mother and five children. They need you especially during these moments of your mother's life.  Don't wait for the time that it would be too late for you to see your loved ones still full of life.   Just like the father of the prodigal son,  surely your mother and children would welcome you wholeheartedly  with open arms!

 

Below are mother's day cards designed by the awesome kids in one of the schools, here at NYC. To all mothers   and grandmothers in the world, HAPPY MOTHER'S DAY !!!

For my Mom who is in heaven now, Happy Mother's Day to you Inay!   

Hey look at this, one 10-yr. old child even wrapped his own designed card for his mom with a paper.  Such a very thoughtful and resourceful child. He wants the best for his mom!  Such lucky mom!

Sex Education in Elementary and High Schools – Useful Tips and Thoughts

 

While discussions on any related sex education issues can be quite complex and challenging to some ordinary people like me, I just couldn’t sit down and keep mum about it especially when it’s being widely debated by various sectors of society in third world and developing economies. Originating from a developing country and as part of my responsibility in the blogosphere, I felt I should share my thoughts on the subject with the end view of providing practical tips on how matured individuals, parents in particular,  can discuss and educate the young ones about the “s” (short term for sex) word. Conversely, this blog will put aside, as much as possible, the more controversial issues affecting the subject such as political, moral, and emotional aspect of it as the same would require a comprehensive and empirical analysis to support any position taken.

Years ago, I have been involved in some community development on certain weekends, visiting areas where city’s informal dwellers stand, specifically teaching kids on various things in life. One time while we were discussing about guardian angels, an 11-year old girl asked me if I have a guardian angel and if so, what’s her name. Excited about her enthusiasm and the inquisitive faces of the other children, more or less of same age group, I gladly responded that I gave my guardian angel a name of “Maria Goretti”, which I got from one of my favorite saints, St. Maria Goretti. Since they don’t have any idea who the Saint was, I told them briefly about her story. I remember, one significant part of St. Maria Goretti’s life story is that she’s one of the martyrs and the youngest saints (12-yr old) in history, as she died from multiple stab wounds inflicted by the rapist after she refused him because of her strong faith in God. I didn’t expect any follow-up question after that because I made it as simple and direct as it should be. However, she asked me unknowingly, “what is a rapist or rape?”. At first, I was taken aback as I didn’t know how to define the said terms in its proper context taking into account their naivety on the subject, culture and beliefs and without mentioning as much as possible the “s” word . Nonetheless, I tried to compose myself and I thought I was able to explain it to them rightfully, but with the observation that at their young age and with innocent minds, they were already interested to know more on the subject.

Partly educated in a private school run by group of nuns, I recall our teacher on religion/theology (part of which is a curriculum tagged as responsible parenthood) didn’t really tackle much on this matter. I wouldn’t say it was taboo at that time but it was typically a non-subject similar to other schools. We were not aware of any policies but we could only surmise that probably teaching the subject especially in elementary, middle or high schools could have been within the realm of the parents’ role and responsibility. It was presumed that the parents were able to establish an open and honest relationship with their kids and discuss all the realities of life, including the “s” word. Nevertheless, it wasn’t the case. It wasn’t happening at all in almost all of the households. It could either be that parents were busy looking for food to eat on the table, so to speak, or the children were hesitant or ashamed to consult related matters with their parents or vise versa. Despite the lack or the absence of a systematic or methodical approach of such education, however, the parents have not been remiss of reminding their children about the do’s and don’ts, particularly on love, courtship and marriage. Parents then were very emphatic on the norms of responsible parenthood, i.e. that a sexual act can only be done by husbands and wives. Thus, it was seldom seen that an 11-year old or a teen ager had engaged or can freely engage in pre-marital sex. On the other hand, in the case of matured and adult children who under the law were considered as able to manage their own affairs, it was another story. Exploring or even to the extent of engaging in said affairs seemed to have been discretionary on their part. Parents would normally say: “You’re old enough, you know what’s right or wrong, you know what to do”!

The foregoing narrative, based on my experience and encounters with people from all walks of life, may imply that even without a comprehensive sex education in middle (primary) and high schools at that time, the student kids or children then have learned to normally adapt to the situation as they grow older, armed with their parents’ wisdom and conscience to boot.

Don’t get me wrong, I am neither timid, squeamish nor narrow minded. As a matter of fact, I can be pragmatic and liberal in many ways. I recognize the fact that nowadays, unfortunately the kids and teens throughout the world are presently being bombarded with all the “lures” and “pressures” either from peers, tri-media, internet, social networking, or in worst case a degree of some bad influence from family members, relatives and friends. As such, there are more and more young adults (in their 15’s, 18’s or in early 20’s) being tempted to do these things not being aware of the painful and lifelong consequences (e.g. ailments related to sex like HIV, AIDS., unwanted pregnancies, not being able to graduate high or college schools) they will have to face after the fact. This is not only true to young girls but to young boys as well and these would have adverse repercussion on their personal well being and family relationships. I also recognize the job of Governments and the United Nations for that matter “to respect and protect the rights of girls and boys to comprehensive information regarding their health and their bodies.” In fact, I consider their advocacies and policies worth noting as far as human rights are concerned. In the same manner, I recognize and understand the concerns of religious groups and the relevance of their teachings as they too have moral obligations to impart to their congregation/parishioners what is right and wrong based on certain laws, rules and regulations handed down from generation to generation.

 In developed and industrialized countries such as the United States, majority of US students (from Grade 7 or earlier to high school) receive formal sex education in schools from a more comprehensive (which includes safe sex practices) to abstinence only. There are cases where “s” education is an option and parents can excuse their children from the subject class taking into account the student’s family’s heritage and beliefs. It has been observed however that even if armed with this kind of education, studies indicate that more young students still fail to protect themselves from predators or yet still found themselves being victims of sexual related activities. Why is this so? Why is sex education been found to be ineffective in some parts of the world? There are schools of thoughts but I don’t have any concrete response to this. Perhaps, this is an area where scholars could try looking at considering all the aspects (e.g. values and morals, religious, political, economic, emotional , etc.) of it. There may be an impact study already undertaken on this matter and it would be good if the same can be brought into the doors of the proper authorities or any Governments contemplating to implement for the first time said education program, so it could potentially serve as basis for policy formulation

 

PRACTICAL HELPFUL TIPS

Thus, in my own little way, here are some common and practical tips on how parents can talk to their kids about the subject, regardless of whether or not their kids are receiving sex education in school:

1. Mold kids early. Explain and instill values (modesty, decency, good manners, etc.), morals and religious doctrines in children by the time they reach the age of reason, i.e. 7 years old, or thereabouts. Explain also the wisdom and importance behind it and why said values are being held and followed, but never present it in such a way that their lives are based on a bunch of stringent rules. There’s no need to go through graphic details as young minds can not grasp the ramifications of any sexual behavior. It could be told to them in an indirect fashion. This is where parents are needed because sometimes in schools, the teachers though they are technically well-equipped, they may not be able to provide these aspects.

2. Establish close bonding with kids. As mentioned earlier, it is the parents’ primary responsibility to rear and nurture their kids so they’ll become good individuals. This can be done by creating a friendly and open environment at home through love, respect and affection between the parents and children. With this kind of family relationship, it would be easier for parents to talk about private issues (including the “s” word) with their kids or vise versa. In fact, parents can emphasize or tell their children that they can actually discuss with them about their crushes, infatuations and the like.

3. Act as role model. Set an example to your kids. There’s an old saying: “Like Mother, like daughter” or “like father, like son”. There are so many aspects in life that kids see you as their perfect example or a hero to them. Thus, parents should always be on guard on their actions, even how minute it could be.

4. Be visible/Get involved in school related activities. Participating in school related activities like the PTA would provide more or less parents some feedback from the teachers on how kids are doing in school and at the same time parents would have an idea on school’s policies, including sex education.

5. Seek assistance from experts – If parents are facing difficulty in educating their children about the subject, it is always better to consult the more knowledgeable and the right people. In terms of religious related matters, you can always seek the advice of a spiritual director or if it is more on the terminologies regarding the subject, a weekend school teacher may be good to see, or may be an aunt or an uncle whom the kids highly regard can be approached to help too.

However, we can’t deny the fact that there are parents all over the world who have not attained secondary or higher education or have not ever gone through a formal education at all, particularly those in the rural areas, and this could be the dilemma. Therefore, I would say that instead of educating the children in schools, why not educate the parents themselves (e.g. right words to use, etc.)? Matured individuals as they are, the wisdom behind said education could be shared properly with their kids in the confinements of their homes. I think this is more prudent and logical thing to do. Just sharing my thoughts!

Having said all of the foregoing, I trust said tips would be able to help you in child formation/education. Please share with me your ideas, experiences on the subject and if you have any comments or objections, alert me ….don’t worry I won’t argue with you! Exercise your right of free speech!

Helpful Tips On What To Do During An Earthquake

I was triggered to write this article in view of the major recent earthquakes that hit certain parts of the globe within a span of two months in year 2010. Major ones were the one that hit Chile today (February 27) with a catastrophic magnitude of 8.8 on the Richter Scale and another in Haiti (January 12) with a 7.0 magnitude.

It may be normal to be paranoid or to feel scared (especially for children) of the occurrence of the said natural calamity of this enormity. We all know that several lives and properties were lost in the said earthquakes and still mortals or even the “super heroes” can not prevent these things from happening. Billions of dollars have been and will be spent for humanitarian reasons and for re-building of the needed infrastructures (road, bridges, hospitals, schools, etc.) and to return these stricken countries to normalcy. We can only do so much after the fact, to help those affected and in pain , particularly those who have nothing at all. For those who are willing to share their resources, there are various legitimate organizations on line ready to receive your donations.

I would  like to share with you some tips and guidelines which have been formulated by experts. So far, the “drop, cover and hold on” method which was taught to us during high school days' drills still holds true. Here are some:  

If Indoors
  • DROP to the ground; take COVER by getting under a sturdy table or other piece of furniture; and HOLD ON on until the shaking stops. If there’s no table or desk near you, cover your face and head with your arms and crouch in an inside corner of the building.
  • Stay away from glass, windows, outside doors and walls, and anything that could fall.
  • Stay in bed if you are there when the earthquake strikes. Hold on and protect your head with a pillow, unless you are under a heavy light fixture that could fall.
  • Use a doorway for shelter only if it is in close proximity to you and if you know it is a strongly supported, loadbearing doorway.
  • Stay inside until shaking stops and it is safe to go outside. Research has shown that most injuries occur when people inside buildings attempt to move to a different location inside the building or try to leave.
  • Be aware that the electricity may go out or the sprinkler systems or fire alarms may turn on.
  • DO NOT use the elevators.
If Outdoors
  • DROP to the ground; take COVER by getting under a sturdy table or other piece of furniture; and HOLD ON on until the shaking stops. If there isn’t a table or desk near you, cover your face and head with your arms and crouch in an inside corner of the building.
  • Stay away from glass, windows, outside doors and walls, and anything that could fall, such as lighting fixtures or furniture.
  • Stay in bed if you are there when the earthquake strikes. Hold on and protect your head with a pillow, unless you are under a heavy light fixture that could fall. In that case, move to the nearest safe place.
  • Use a doorway for shelter only if it is in close proximity to you and if you know it is a strongly supported, loadbearing doorway.
  • Stay inside until shaking stops and it is safe to go outside. Research has shown that most injuries occur when people inside buildings attempt to move to a different location inside the building or try to leave.
  • Be aware that the electricity may go out or the sprinkler systems or fire alarms may turn on.
  • DO NOT use the elevators.
If in a moving vehicle
  • Stop as quickly as safety permits and stay in the vehicle. Avoid stopping near or under buildings, trees, overpasses, and utility wires.
  • Proceed cautiously once the earthquake has stopped. Avoid roads, bridges, or ramps that might have been damaged by the earthquake.

If trapped under debris

Source: FEMA

  • Do not light a match.
  • Do not move about or kick up dust.
  • Cover your mouth with a handkerchief or clothing.
  • Tap on a pipe or wall so rescuers can locate you. Use a whistle if one is available. Shout only as a last resort. Shouting can cause you to inhale dangerous amounts of dust.

For Children:

  • Parents should teach basic earthquake safety. Teach your children about earthquakes to help keep your family safe.

Important Reminder: In an earthquake, stay calm and do not run or panic. Other Related Information: What is a fault? “A fault is a fracture in the crust along which one side has moved relative to the other side. Faults can be very small or hundreds of miles long. The earth's crust is composed of huge plates that are in slow but nearly constant motion.” What causes an earthquake? “Earthquakes occur when the two sides of a fault slip suddenly against each other. For ex. the Pacific and North American plates move past each other about 1.5 inches a year. The friction between the plates causes stress, which is released when the blocks of crust slip suddenly along a fault plane. That releases waves of energy that travel through the ground, causing the shaking you feel.” What is an epicenter? “Earthquake ruptures usually begin far under the surface of the Earth. The point of origin miles down is called the hypocenter. The epicenter is the point on the surface directly above the hypocenter.” How often do earthquakes happen? “The National Earthquake Information Center (U.S.) reports 12,000-14,000 earthquakes a year around the world, or 35 a day. Throughout the world, there are one "great" (magnitude 8.0 or more), 18 "major" (7.0-7.9), 120 "large" (6.0-6.9) and 1,000 "moderate" (5.0-5.9) earthquakes in an average year. Each year, California generally gets two or three earthquakes large enough to cause moderate damage to structures (magnitude 5.5 and higher).” What is a tsunami? “Sometimes called seismic sea waves (or, incorrectly, tidal waves), a tsunami is a series of waves generated by large earthquakes that create vertical movement on the ocean floor. Tsunamis can reach more than 50 feet in height, move inland several hundred feet and threaten life and property. Often, the first wave of a tsunami is not the largest. Tsunamis can occur on all coastal regions of the world, but are most common along margins of the Pacific Ocean. Tsunamis can travel from one side of the Pacific to the other in a day, at a velocity of 600 miles an hour in deep water. A locally generated tsunami may reach the shore within minutes.”

I hope I was able to refresh your memory about this learning. Be safe!